Unconditional

In today’s society, women are encouraged to be independent and to stand on their own but then we wonder why so many are alone.  I think that society has taught us wrong and women are not meant to be completely independent because we are in fact designed to submit. Every relationship is not meant to be and I am certainly not saying that women should put up with abuse.  There is a process to selecting a mate that many people bypass with this culture of hook ups and sexual independence. Sex creates a soul tie; so by giving their bodies too quickly, women are bonding to men who they really were never meant to be with.

1 Thessalonians 4:3 (KJV)- For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:

Ideally a man should court a woman before she gives herself to him. In the course of his rising to meet her expectations, love develops and trust is built in knowing that he is willing to work and sacrifice for her. If relationships are done the right way,  the woman takes her time in selecting a man; requires a marital commitment before sex; then she can be confident in her decisions and more apt to stand by his side even if he messes up and hurts her. After all, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes. We all have issues to address. There is a divine order to relationships and someone has to submit.  

Ephesians 5:22-24 (KJV)- Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. 24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

The theme of today is keep it moving and marriages break up at the drop of a hat. We’ve all heard that the divorce rate in America is 50%. That should be an indication that we are doing something wrong. True love is unconditional.

John 15:12 (KJV)-This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.

Have you ever stopped to think about what that really means? God loves us despite all of our imperfections and flaws.  He does not walk out on us when we mess up; nor does he give up on us. I see so many women hurt and angry over failed love and men that did them wrong. So I wrote this piece for my sisters. 

Unconditional

I hate to see her hurting so

I want to tell her to just let him go

he chose not her but the hoe

but she didn’t even want him though

when he called she would not answer the phone

While she was out, he was home

but he was not alone

his side piece did what she would not do

now she’s always crying the blues

she tried to find someone to fill his shoes

but he could not replace her boo

she thought she’d beat him at his game

but men and women are not the same

men can cheat and feel no shame

they don’t even need to know her name

while women feel guilt and pain

Instead of placing blame she could have stepped up her game

and proclaimed  love and re-sparked their  flame

but instead she became his ex-

and now she’s perplexed

because he moved on

when he moved out it was agreed upon

so why is she so sad that he’s now gone

I’ll tell you why, though you may think I’m wrong

It’s because love should be life long

There’s no such thing as the perfect man

They’re all just doing the best they can

It’s okay to understand

And hold his hand

help him Grow and be his fan

It’s also okay to take a stand

But you better have a game plan

Because love never stays as it began

And unless you want to keep starting over again

Someone’s got to stick like glue             

And if it’s not him then it should be you

You can keep it moving

But what are you proving

Since you are not a bus or a train

By constant motion, you have nothing to gain

With devotion you can attain

Unconditional love

© 2013 Savvy Brown

 

Compassion is...

I was on Facebook, earlier today watching as two women argued over different points of view.  I posted some comments in favor of one point of view but when it started to turn a little ugly, I decided to leave the discussion.  I think emotions can quickly turn an argument into a personal attack because we feel strongly that we are right and the other is wrong; but it is important to keep an open mind. What if what you think today, changes tomorrow?  What if the other person is actually right? Even if they are dead wrong, I think it is very important to have compassion for people and the way that they feel because their experiences have shaped who they are.  More likely than not, your experiences are very different from theirs and so you don’t see things the same way. Some people say that truth is relative, and to a degree I agree with that.  It is common to want to change someone’s mind but I think that it would be far more effective to resist that urge and not to try to change the person’s mind. The point of debates should be to share  different points of view rather than to change minds. If another’s mind happens to change because of what you shared, that is great but if not; that is okay too.  We as a people have to learn how to love and accept each other with our differences. Our differences are what make the world go around. That is what agape love is about.  It’s unconditional love.

People have lost sight that we are all connected. The appearance of self is an illusion.  You should not want to attack someone because they think differently from you because you would not want to be attacked for your beliefs.  It is so easy for people to hurt, even kill, each other today because people have lost sight that we are all one. Our collective energy is the spirit of God. It is powerful. When we can start to see God in ourselves and each other, we can treat each other with love and compassion.

Psalms 145:8 (KJV) says the Lord is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy.

If we strive to emulate Jesus then we would not engage in personal attacks over trivial arguments and petty things.  Compassion is the path to a better life.

Compassion

Compassion is the path to living better

Like a chain letter

The message spreads but the spirit is fed

And it is a good thing

We must open our mouths and sing

Praises of love and understanding

By banding together we can avoid the crash landing

That is eminent if we continue to self-destruct

Disorderly conduct has become the norm

And it has left us all fucked

So instead of conforming or weathering the storm

It would behoove us all to chuck

Our personal feelings or tuck them deep inside;

 Better yet set them aside

And realize that pride and ego

Coincide with being snide and

Contribute to the cultural divide

Not only should we walk side by side

But we should act as one

And put down our guns

Because the only real weapon

worth having is compassion.

 

 

Drowning

When I was a child, I had a near death experience.  My cousin jumped into the deep end of a swimming pool knowing that he did not know how to swim. Why?  To impress a girl. His mother wasn’t looking at the time but I saw him drowning and I swam over to try to save him.  I grabbed his arm to pull him to safety and instead of him letting me pull him along to the edge, he latched on to my body, prohibiting me from swimming and started trying to climb on top of me thus pushing me under water with him. I eventually had to fight him off of me to save my own life and swim away, when I came up for air his mother was standing by the side of the pool and she asked me what he was doing and I said “Drowning” with the last little bit of air in my lungs and then I swam to the side to get out the pool. He passed out and was underwater and only then could a stranger come in and pull him out of the water.  Once he was revived I asked him why he was trying to climb on top of my head and why he wouldn’t let me just pull him. He stated that he kept thinking if I would let him stand on top of me, he could get air. How crazy is that? He thought he could just stand on top of me and that I would be okay under water.  Life is sometimes like that when we try to help someone in distress. If we are not careful, they can end up dragging us down too. Time and time again, I have tried to help people who were living in chaos and I have come to realize that you can’t save those who won’t let you.  People who are drowning in life are often in confused states of mind and they will do things to  harm others just to try to survive. They really cannot or will not see how their actions are hurting the other person. 2 Corinthians 6:14 states, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" That is not to say that we should judge, mistreat and/or disrespect those who are in dark places mentally and spiritually. Matthew 13:32 states, "Which indeed is the least of all seeds: but when it is grown, it is the greatest among herbs, and becometh a tree, so that the birds of the air come and lodge in the branches thereof". One never knows what a person's final destiny will be so it is very important to treat all people with dignity, respect and agape love which is God's unconditional type of love. Just be mindful that you can have all the good intentions in the world but if a person’s frame of mind is not in the right place, they won’t be willing to see the helping hand that you are trying to extend. You might have to let go.

Let Go

I love you but I gotta let you go

Life has yet to teach you what I already know

I wish you could learn from my past

but you need time to grow

so I have to give you space

to find your flow

It hurts me to see you hurting so

but if I stay around you, you'll dim my glow

I'll be wondering how I sank so low

see the fast can't hang with the slow

and the loser can't keep up with the pro

The river can't flow through ice and snow

and people can't thrive when they are stuck in woe

You're trying to follow status quo

when you're meant to run the show

You're debt is paid

but you still think you owe

and you are making self your foe

I still love you though

maybe one day you'lll know

but for now I gotta go

© Savvy Brown 2011

The power of unity

Have you ever noticed that when you are trying to do something big, something good or something positive; haters seem to come out of the woodwork?  I am naturally a home-body so I tend to shy away from others and their drama/ conflict but I believe that when you are called to do something, you cannot let the negative influence of others stop you. Networking and socialization is critical and necessary to accomplish big projects and tasks. If a problem needs to be addressed, we must face it head on but we must do so in love. We have to have faith that our efforts will flourish because our hearts are in the right place.  Misunderstandings can be cleared up with communication but jealousy and hate is a ugly animal and there really is nothing that we can do individually, to stop it. Maybe just maybe... if enough people start working together in love and unity, we will become the majority and haters and individualists will become outcasts that will take cover and hide or learn to set self aside and join the movement of love and unity.  Until that glorious day comes; just take hate as a sign that you are doing something that is worthy of people's envy and energy and use that as motivation to keep going. Sure it would be nice if everyone supported each other and worked together toward common goals but the world is filled with mistrust.  It's understandable that people don't trust each other in this day and age given all of the greed and selfishness that runs rampant in western society but until people learn to trust each other, they will remain stagnant because they are holding themselves back. We as a people must understand that working together will help all parties accomplish goals and reach their destinations faster.  There is power in unity.

The Bible has this to say in Ephesians 4 verses 13-24:

13Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ:

 14That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive;

 15But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:

 16From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love.

 17This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind,

 18Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart:

 19Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.

 20But ye have not so learned Christ;

 21If so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus:

 22That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;

 23And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;

 24And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.

Shine On

Haters may come

and haters may go

but I would never let

a hater wreck my flow

because one monkey don't

stop no show

and plus I already know

that everything I do is destined to glow

Haters, throw your stones

Have a free throw

unlike you, I am not working for self

God is my C.E.O

He knew your scheme a long time ago

so your attempts to stop me are futile

I am the Creator's child

you may not like my style

but it will speak to your heart

your attacks will be stopped before

they start.

You may wonder how I flourish

when I am so new to the scene

and I don't mean to be mean

but this thing is bigger than you and me

Here's a clue for you

Read Proverbs Three

See, I learned not to lean

on my own understanding

so God directs my path

in all things.

You still think you are wise

but its only in your own eyes;

and maybe in the eyes of those

who like you

have not learned to flee from evil

you fancy yourselves as regal

but to me it sounds more like fecal.

A real queen would know that unity

is the key to any successful kingdom

so while you bask in the glory of your own

wisdom, you will continue to cry victim;

while I and the other chosen ones,

 shine on.

The lesson is in the journey

Have you ever tried to do something in life and you reach out to people for help but they ignore your cries or worse, tell you will never make it? Sometimes in life people don't see the vision that God has placed in us. The times when people don't support your dream or goals can be difficult. Those times can make you question whether you should go on but I believe that those times are a test of our faith.When we are doing God's will for our life it really does not matter who is in support of us because God's plan will be done.

Joshua 1:8 says: "This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good ."

If it seems like things are not going your way, first do a spiritual check to make sure that you are in alignment with God's will and that you are being obedient to the instructions that he has given us.  If those things are in order, then have faith because nothing is impossible.

Luke 17:6  says: "And the Lord said, If ye had faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye might say unto this sycamine tree, Be thou plucked up by the root, and be thou planted in the sea; and it should obey you."

If your faith can pull a tree up by its roots, surely your faith can lead you to the path where your dreams will fulfilled. Be forewarned  that, once you achieve your dreams you might just discover that the real blessing was in the journey it took to get there.

Have Faith
Lord, I have not always been obedient
but I have tried to do your will
so I am going to sit and be still
because I know that this just a test
and that your will is for me to be blessed
so I won't pay attention to the naysayers
and I will ignore the haters
because I know your will is greater
than anything they can do
My purpose is to glorify you
so I know you'll see me through
You have brought me this far;
its been a long journey
but you still hold the key
to my dreams
So hear my plea
and continue to carry me
I've come this far
because its you that I trust
so I know if I lean on you,
I will be thrust
into prosperity, my destiny;
and everything that's good
not because you should
but rather because you could
and because my story
will show your glory
© 2011

Choose Your Words Wisely

In my opinion, many people in our culture could benefit from a class on effective communication.  It's okay to have a healthy debate but when people say stuff like:" I stand on what I said; You are wrong; That is not true, etc" they are shutting down the lines of communication and that tends to put the other party on the defensive. If we truly want to try to understand different perspectives, isn't it more productive to say things like, 'I disagree with that but I see you point here';and/ or to concede with the other party on some points. Does it hurt to say, "I see your point  but I feel blah, blah, blah"? I think this failure to compromise is what makes some people come across as being so angry all the time.

The definition of communication is to give or interchange thoughts, feelings, information, or the like, by writing, speaking, etc. Most of the time people are just listening so that they can respond.  If we truly want to build better relationships and improve our communication skills, we have to listen to understand and try to see things from the other person's point of view.

Greek Philosopher, Epictetus said, "We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” The Bible has this to say about communication: Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.( Ephesians 4:29 ).

I try to use my poetry to inspire people to achieve their goals and to move past their fears.  Words can build people up or they can tear them down; so choose your words wisely.

Words
Most conversations begin with a simple word
and contain a noun and a verb
and while sentences can be simple or complex
Conversations are often something we will never forget
because words have the power to stir thoughts
and deter dreams and words used losely have more meaning
than that which on surface can be seen
because words have the power to destroy or to heal
and words can affect how people feel
Some words convey the absurd
while some words
express what occurred
and some words should just never be heard
for example the "N" word which has
hurt more than a few
and Semitic people don't
like the word Jew
and while neither one of these words is new
they still carry a dark hue and
express a negative view.
Words have power and
can speak things into existence
Words have led masses to resistance
words can inspire the unmotivated to persistence
and words can cut like a knife 
when thrown from a distance
so choose your words wisely
before you open your mouth, think
Remember any fool can talk;
but only a wise man speaks.

© 2011 Savvy Brown

On Being Grateful

In my opinion, being grateful is one of the most important characteristics that a person can have.  When people are too spoiled and ungrateful, it makes others not what to give them anything. When people are appreciative of the smallest gifts and acts of kindness, it makes people want to give them more. The universe reacts to people the same way.  When you express gratitude for the blessings that you receive in life; life blesses you with more gifts.  When you are constantly wanting more and feeling that you are lacking what others have; the universe reacts to that by not rewarding you with what you want. 

This principle has been expressed in several places such as "The Secret";  Personal Power by Anthony Robbins; and even in the Bible: Proverbs 28:20 -A faithful man shall abound with blessings: but he that maketh haste to be rich shall not be innocent.

It is truly a blessing when someone wants to do something out of the kindness of their hearts; especially in this day and age when everyone's number one priority is self.  So be thankful for the small things so that you will be equipped and ready when bigger things come your way.

Thank You
Thank you for everything you have ever done for me
And for everything that I ever received
Thanks for the clarity;
and for sparing me;
Thank you for every breath that I take
and for every step that I make
for I know that I would not be here
if it were not for your sake.
Thank you for giving me peace of mind
and for people that are kind
Thank you for showing me signs
even in the difficult times
Thank you for showing me my path
and for a man that makes me laugh
and for my daughter who's on task
Thank you for my home
and for never leaving me alone
Thank you for family that cares for me
even when I treat them badly
Thank you for a job and money to pay bills
Thank you for poetry and for the ability to express how I feel
Thank you seeing me through
Because it taught me to praise you
Thank you God for saving me
and for the blessings that I have yet to see.
© 2011